You have been in platonic friendship with a male/female
friend before but wants to upgrade it to full relationship,All
you need to do is to start from the beginning like he/she is
someone new. you know This is because you guy aren’t
friends anymore but in a romantic relationship with a
person capable of taking you through a whole lot of
emotional stages.
So you need to know that part of them to make it work and
regardless of whatever they might have told you about that
part of them in the past, just know that theory is one thing
and practical is yet another. the following are five reasons
why you must not date your best friend
1.You know each other too well
This should be a good idea and a plus under normal
circumstances but thing is when you know someone too
well, you tend to take them for granted without even
realizing it. Your best friend turned boo will not bother to
try and know more, they feel like they know your every
move so what is there to learn? It does not even bother
them when you feel somehow sometimes because they
know you so much they know you will eventually “snap out
of it.” Also they believe you know each other so well, you
should “understand” some things. A friend of mine told me
he dated his friend once and while they were dating, he still
treated her like that friend he knew not his girlfriend. The
girl on the other hand expected things to have changed. He
showed up for their dates a little late like he did when they
had hangouts when they were friends and still did some
things he did while they were just friends. The relationship
did not last, they knew each other too well.
2.You have too many things in common
The reason friendship worked between you two in the first
place is because you have a whole lot of things in
common. In relationships, opposite might be the attraction
because nobody wants to date another version of
themselves but in friendship, like poles attract and this is
because friendship is stronger when we see a version of
ourselves in the next person. When you and your friend
decide to take it up a notch and be each other’s boo, you
are most likely going to get bored out of your minds in the
first few months of your relationship. You will begin to
realize that you have so many things in common that it is
not so interesting and nothing new happens. The only new
thing would/might be the s3x and k!ssing which became a
part of your lives when you agreed to start dating.
3.The sheer awkwardness at the beginning
When you both are friends, there are no surprises. You
know this person and they know you and there is no reason
for you to feel awkward around your friend. When
relationship is introduced, then you begin to feel a bit
awkward moving from the friendship stage to easing into
the relationship stage.
4.What you thought you felt might not be what you truly
feel
Yes you really like this man or woman and you would move
mountains for them. So you have one “electrifying” moment
and you both decide it is what you need to move to the
next level. Maybe you should wait and see if this is the real
feeling you need to feel before you make a decision to be
more than friends.
5.It is NOT easy
Contrary to what most people believe that easing into
relationships from the friendship stage is easy, it is not
always easy. Yes you have built a friendship for so many
years and have now decided to be more than just friends
but the truth is it does not become easier simply because
you were friends for a few years before you started dating.
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